When a kiss is not a kiss
Many dog owners enjoy the warm embrace of a dog’s tongue on their face, often interpreting this behaviour as affection. However, it's essential to understand that this act can carry a different meaning, and your furry friend might actually be communicating a need for space or another underlying emotion.
The Common Misinterpretation of Licking
When a dog licks your face, it’s easy to assume they’re expressing love and loyalty. After all, dogs often exhibit licking behaviour as a sign of bonding, similar to how they might greet other dogs. This behaviour can trigger feelings of warmth and closeness, leading us to turn a blind eye to the context in which the licking happens.
Understanding the Context
It’s crucial to observe the surrounding context. If your dog approaches you while you’re engaged with others, or if you’re exhibiting signs of stress or anxiety, your dog might be sensing that and using licking to engage you or to invite your attention back to them. In these moments, licking could be a request for reassurance rather than an unequivocal expression of affection.
Interestingly, dogs might also lick as a subtle signal indicating they would like some space. If they are feeling overwhelmed by too much attention or interaction, licking could serve as a way of communicating discomfort or the need to step away.
Reading Your Dog’s Body Language
To better understand what your dog is trying to convey when they lick your face, pay attention to their body language. Signs of discomfort or stress might include:
Ears turned back
Tail tucked
Avoiding eye contact
Pulling away before or after the lick
Consent Testing
If you notice these signs alongside licking, it’s essential to respect your dog’s need for space. If you’re not sure, a simple consent test will help. Simply pause your interactions with your dog and let them make the choice to indicate they’d like more interaction by moving closer or leaning into you, or moving away or even remaining neutral without approaching or retreating.
Listening to your dog and respecting their boundaries will strengthen your bond and lead to a happier, more harmonious relationship.